Connoisseurship, and a Weird Swap

Angela at Now Smell This did a great post recently about the stages of fragrance obsession. I think I´m firmly in Stage Four – connoisseurship – although I admit using that word about myself makes me giggle.

There was a period of time not so long ago when I sucked down new sample vials like they were dough-wrapped cocktail weenies – with total abandon and a remarkable lack of shame. I remember hearing strange tales of people with samples in their possession that they – get this – had not gotten around to smelling yet! I could understand those words in English, and yet they did not compute.

I now have a big silver bowl that has mostly unsniffed samples in it. I´m not in any hurry. They´ll be there when I want them. Some of them I´m toying with (do I love that Bruno Acampora musc oil, or do I hate it? I can´t decide.) Some of them got tasted once (PG Haramens, yikes!) and thrown back in the bowl on the chance I was having an off day. The less said about that thing, the better.

Which brings me to my next item. I feel like I need to issue a blanket apology to anyone whose Holy Grail I´ve dissed recently. It goes without saying, but I´m saying it anyway: it´s just my opinion, and this is supposed to be fun, and who cares what I think? I´m the woman who likes Light Blue, remember? You see my point here. If I make some snarky comment about your scent love, bask in the knowledge that I´m an idiot, and/or I´ll probably be blogging in six months about how I´ve changed my mind.

Reaching Stage Four of my fragrance addiction has been a relief. Among other things, it´s allowed me to do previously unheard of things like wearing a single scent for an entire day just to enjoy it and see what happens. I know, I know – strange, but true! Have no fear; I feel no boredom or ennui creeping in. But right now I´m less interested in seeking out the brand-new thing that landed on the shelves (looking at you, Tom Ford Voile de Fleur!) Instead, you can expect some blogging on things that might have been around a bit longer, and/or some crow-eating revisits to fragrances I tried and dismissed previously. Also, in case the suspense is killing you – why, yes, I am still wearing Courtesan regularly and loving it, thanks for asking! Now that it´s fall, it´s been rejoined by Theorema and Chaos, with others not far behind.

So …. Patty’s still in Paris, haven’t heard a peep from her. I hope she’s got a baguette in one hand and a Caron flacon in the other. I feel like doing something a little different, a little weird; will you play with me?

Let´s call this game The Circle of Stuff. It goes like this: listed below are several bottles of fragrance I want to unload. Some are duplicates I wound up with; others I just don´t need. Some I paid full retail; some I bought at discount or got through swaps, or even as gifts (hopefully not from someone reading today’s post). Now, per Angela’s post, I am editing my collection.

Comment below and tell me which bottle you want — one request per person, please. I’ll choose one person for each bottle, get your address, and send it to you with my return address. After you get it, you can pick something (a surprise) and send it to me. What would I like? Well… hmmmm … how about … another bottle of perfume, one you don´t want/need/like? Or, chocolate! Tea! Tea-flavored chocolate! Preserves! CDs of interesting music you think I might like (used is fine, hey, the perfume’s used), another apron, soaps, lotions, costume jewelry, candles, etc. Then I’ll blog on whatever I get in return (“Wow, my first shrunken head! Where will I put it?”). Fine print: if the USPS loses your bottle (a risk with all swaps which has happened to me once), then you get … well, nothing, right? But then you don’t have to send me anything either, do you? In fact, I can’t make you send me anything even if you get the bottle. I’m working on trust, humor and caffeine here.

This will be interesting. I wonder if there will be bottles nobody even wants? Maybe nobody will want any of these and I´ll feel shame?!?! Or maybe not, I´m not on close terms with shame. Clearly. Anyway, in an upcoming post I’ll announce who I picked. I´ll email you for your address. I´ll throw in some extra stuff in each box, too. I can´t wait to see what I wind up with!

Here´s the list, with additional info as appropriate:

Diptyque Eau d´Elide EDT, 50 ml, box, mostly full
Straw Hat (new, not vintage) EDT, 50 ml
Floris Malmaison no cap, EDT, 100 ml, almost full
Estee Lauder Pleasures Delight almost full, 25 – 30? ml (unmarked)
L´Artisan Fleur de Carotte 15ml? (unlabeled) L´Artisan glass atomizer, mostly full
Le Prince Jardinier – L´Eau du Prince Jardinier 100ml, 80% full, box
Gap Spun Orange Blossom EDT, 50ml, almost full, box, don’t laugh, this d/c’d scent has its hardcore fans!
S-Perfume 100% Love {More} (not regular), 40 – 50ml? (unlabeled), almost full

image: Kermit the Frog sniffs the cap of a bottle of Vin de Idaho; www.wineintro.com

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parisa
18 years ago

I would love to try L’Artisan’s Fleur de Carotte…the others, I have no idea what they smell like:)

March, you’ve inspired me to donate some of my scents to the less fortunate. I normally give it to my three sisters and mom, but they have such large collections that one less won’t make a difference. Off I go the sort the goods and drop them off to a local drop-in family center…mainly new moms with their little seedlings.

melamici
18 years ago

hi! if it’s not too late, put me in for the malmaison — not sure what i’d send in return, but i love this idea too much not to comment! bravo.

justine tamaro
18 years ago

I have scrolled through the comments, but quickly…so I don’t kow if anyone has dibs on it yet, but I would love the bottle of 100% Love(more). I first tried that because of your reivew and found I really enjoy it…

Jennifer S. S.
18 years ago

I think this is a great idea, though it must
be costing you a fortune in postage. I would
like, in order of precedence, the Malmaison,
Elide, or Jardiner, but really I’ll take
anything:) I promise to try it out really
well.
I didn’t know about giving away perfume to
women’s shelters. I could make up a package.

Nan C
18 years ago

I’m new at this posting stuff but devour every one of your new blogs. I’ve been a perfume addict for many, many, many years ever since discovering Carven Ma Griffe in 1970 and discovering I never want to smell like everyone else around me (remember people who wore Giorgio to the office?). That is what makes this blog such a wonderful new place to visit for me. If it is not too late, put me in for L’Artisan Fleur de Carotte. And I love sending goodie boxes.

Cheezwiz
18 years ago

Thankfully, I have also reached “Stage 4”. Still love trying new things, but don’t feel the need to try everything in sight. I sure hope you will write about the neat stuff you find in your mailbox! I am still giggling over the image of you pulling shrunken heads out of a package ; )

Cynthia Lesiuk
18 years ago

What a fun idea! But how can you not want your Malmaison?! Please put my name in for that. But I must put a warning: I’m currently in Singapore until Christmas so if picked, I wouldn’t be able to return the favor until Christmas. I am quickly reaching the stage where I have acquired so much perfume and samples that I feel like an alcoholic, except it’s perfume. I can’t stop! When do I reach the stage where I am embarrassed by my buying excess and refine my choices to three or four that are “me”? At the moment, I don’t see that day coming!

Calypso
18 years ago

I’ll put in a request for the Gap Spun Orange Blossom… I don’t think anyone else has yet. My first perfume love, MANY years ago, was a tangerine blossom scent, and I’d kill to find some now…. discontinued for decades and I don’t recall the name, but it was so wonderful. I’ve definitely got some neat stuff sitting around that I can trade you for it. It’s a fun idea–and yes, those stages are also fun. I think there are so many memories to be recorded around perfume–family members and their unique scents and histories. Over the years you can generate a kind of perfume autobiography, and it’s strange to remember the phases you had that you just could never go back to but still remember fondly. (For me, one of them was Patou’s “Sublime”, for example.) I also love the suggestion to give samples and bottles you no longer love away to a local women’s shelter–I’m going to do that.

Amarie
18 years ago

Dear March,
Lovely idea of yours….though I am not inclined to any new ones at this moment. I certainly haven’t reached stage 4 but I think I am in hiatus….too much real life interfering to obsess as much as normal.
I like the idea of a home for orphan samples too but probably too much work involved. Unfortunately the collection of samples that you don’t like build up unlike the ones youy love which disappear far too quickly.:((

18 years ago

I would feel like I had died and gone to heaven if I had a bunch of samples lying around to try! I am fairly new and novice to niche perfumery, but I am having a ball finding out what I love and hate. I hate gourmand sweet fluffy stuff. I was just sitting here trying to imagine what I would send to you….definitly requires thought and more thought! The 100% Love sounds like it’s beautiful, so that is what I would love to try.

Cindy Nolan
18 years ago

March,
Super, super idea, and what fun! Please put me in for the
S-Perfume 100% Love.
Thanks,
CindyN

assortedraisins
18 years ago

What a fun idea! Sign me up for the Straw hat. 🙂
I somehow jumped from stage 2 to 4 in terms of connoisseurship. I went from trying the classics to wanting buy bottles of my favorites, so does that make me a 3.5? This is a great way to “pass the love”. I have a sample of montaigne from my caron phase that I wouldn’t mind giving a new home.

Twibbet
18 years ago

Gosh, the Prince Jardinier sounds just like something I might like! I’m a sucker for balsam. I may be too late, but I’ll throw my hat in the ring anyway.

I have definitely slowed down on my sample acquisitions lately – perhaps I’m approaching stage 4? I totally caved on a bottle of Cadjmere recently, but I’ve really bought very little this year, considering how much sniffing I’ve done. And I have some amazing samples that I’ve barely touched, which is embarrassing. Glad to know I’m not alone :”>

Teri
18 years ago

Ooooh – what a splendid idea! I’d love to play along, so would you please put my name in the hat for the Diptyque?

I’m a part of a ’round robin’ for CDs with a group of friends. Each time we buy something new, we burn a copy and pass it along. I’ve discovered some wonderful new music this way.

Maybe you could consider a forum for others to give away their orphan fragrances? No swap required, only a love gift (to use a very old term for a gift given in return) back from the recipient, if they are so inclined.

Donna
18 years ago

I am interested in Fleur de Carotte 🙂

Donna

Gina
18 years ago

Getting to this post a little late, I imagine all are spoken for. I’d gladly take the L’artisan off your hands, though. Actually, just for shits and giggles, I’d take any of them off of your hands. That’s the kind of addict I am.

Elizabeth
18 years ago

Hi there, March!

I would love the Malmaison, as I have been in a carnationy kind of mood lately.

I have a whole “mystery drawer” filled with bottles that I haven’t touched in a while. Each one is hankering after a better home than mine! 😉

Robin
18 years ago

Jeez. I have so many untried samples I have to keep them indexed on my computer or I can’t even keep track of them. It is very sad.

Hey, nobody has asked for Pleasures Delight! What a niche crowd we all are.

Robin
18 years ago
Reply to  March

Had it, passed it on. And not my sort of scent, but thought it was very well done. Most EL stuff seems very well done, more so than the competition.

Kim
18 years ago

oops – reply to March that went astray!

Kim
18 years ago

No. 5? Really? If you haven’t tried the perfume strength, just send me your address and a sample will come your way! Maybe a convert to No. 5 yet?

And thank goodness for the Posse Parents. I have heeded the dire warnings of the dangers of unsniffed purchase (is that the inverse or reverse of sniffing?) and saved my credit card for the Perfumed Court, where it is getting the recommended weekly amount of preventive exercise.

Alica
18 years ago

I would choose S Perfume 100% Love. Thanks in advance (ohh, should I be the one..)

18 years ago

congratulation to your level of “connaisseur-ship”and thank you for the link to nowSmellThis. So funny. Both of you.

Lena
18 years ago

Ooohh what fun!
I’d love to get that bottle of Diptique! Pretty please!

AngelaS
18 years ago

March, I’m so happy you liked my post! I love your Circle of Stuff idea and can’t wait to read about what comes in the mail.

18 years ago

March-

Great idea! I guess I have reached stage 4 as well. There aren’t a lot of automatic lemmings anymore and I am actually satisfied that I might have enough perfumes.

Maybe.. :d

March
18 years ago
Reply to  tmp00

It feels nice not to be so frantic, you know? Not that I don’t have, like, two or three samples of stuff on the way right now.:”> I can’t wait to hear what you think of Cumming!

18 years ago
Reply to  March

Well, y’all will be finding out next week if it arrives soon- I am hoping for today..

pattie
18 years ago

What a great idea -please put me in for the S-perfume 100% Love! I wish I knew what to do with my samples – I keep ordering, but so many I don’t like on me – know I wont ever wear them, so what to do? Cannot throw away, but I have no friends with the same obsession. Maybe the perfumed court needs a recycling program? A home for orphaned 1 ml scent samples.

Catherine
18 years ago
Reply to  pattie

Yours is an utterly fabulous idea. A lending library of fragrance. I have a small collection of Guerlain parfums that I would love to send someone–just so that they are better loved than with me. And then there’s the host of other “collections” as well. I’ve thought about swapping, but it’s so much effort to wade between what I want and what others want. Too much. Rather just send.

Kim
18 years ago
Reply to  pattie

Try a homeless or woman’s shelter – seriously, a friend of mine gives all her samples and products she doesn’t want to a shelter and she says they are delighted to get them. I have a shopping bag I’m filling up for the same place.

Alternatively, a library where you have to put in samples first and get credits you can use for other samples. I came across something like for books but haven’t tried it yet.

Gail S
18 years ago

Oh, I also meant to say, I am so pathetic that I put on perfume this morning specifically thinking that it was light enough that it would fade. I’m expecting something later today that I want to put on in its’ place. It’s a sickness I tell ya!

Joan
18 years ago
Reply to  Gail S

Gail

I never put on perfume until after the mail is delivered…

Gail S
18 years ago
Reply to  Joan

=))

Gail S
18 years ago

Oh honey, I know just what I want to send you! Hmmm, maybe I should anyway since you’ve been so generous already to me. But in any case, I would love love love a shot at the Diptyque. It’s been on my wishlist for a while!

And I have sooooo many samples I haven’t sniffed yet! Periodically, I go through the drawers looking for something in particular and come across much-desired samples that I didn’t even remember receiving! I really need to reach the connoisseur stage :”>

Christen
18 years ago

Hi March,

Yeah, ‘connoiseur’ makes me laugh, too. I had a SA at Barney’s asking what fragrance I wore, and I informed her, “I wear many things – I’m a bit of a whore when it comes to perfume.” She was horrified and promptly corrected me, “No, no, no! We use the term connoiseur!” Insert snide pun about a rose by any other name at this point 😉

Right now, I have a giant bowl of untouched goodies, and a big bag from the Sniffa, too. (Never even realized I had a samp of Spiritueuse Double Vanille in there, bless her boozy vanilla heart!) I’ve been wearing my beloved AM Kingdom for a week now, can you imagine? Not at all bored with my perfume obsession, just in a mood to savor these days, I suppose.

I’d love to throw my name in for the Malmaison – was hugely carnation-obsessed this summer. Scratching my head and thinking of fun treasures to send from Seattle!

bluechile (Cathy)
18 years ago

What a fun (and generous) idea! I’d love to give Straw Hat a try.

court
18 years ago

This sounds like such fun! I hope you report back on what you get.I would love to try the Prince Jardinier, the notes sound right up my alley.

Camille
18 years ago

What a fun idea, March! I certainly don’t need another bottle of anything, but I’ll look forward to hearing your adventures!

I too loved Angela’s post about the stages of fragrance admiration. I am sadly stuck in the third, I think, since I’m still purchasing new scents at an alarming rate. Altho I may be moving *very slowly* to stage four–I am, after all, turning down a chance at Carotte (since I love ISM, I’m convinced I would love FdC, too) b/c I know I don’t need a bottle. AND I have actually installed shelves for decants, since I’m as into them as I am bottles these days–seem more practical, given my fickleness. There might be hope for me yet. :”>

I never take it personally when anyone disses one of my loves, since I certainly don’t like everyone else’s loves, either. For example, I actually *enjoy* Haramens after the admittedly horrid opening. The wonders of skin chemistry!

Theresa
18 years ago

Definitely a fun idea. I’d like to throw my hat in for Malmaison. And I’ve already got some idea of what I’d send back.

18 years ago

What a terrific idea! Please enter my name on the Floris. I already know part of what I would send back! Because I’m a giant geek.

Kayliana
18 years ago

Whet Fun!! Please enter me in for 100% More Love and I promise to send you something FABULOUS from Florida!!!

Devon
18 years ago

Terrific idea. L’Arisan Carot please.

Thank you,
Bugs Bunny

Lee
18 years ago

Seeing as a fairy godfather sent me way too much stuff (generous kind soul that he is), you’re sending me something and I have three other bottles winging their way to me, one way or another, I think any claim to stage four would be entirely unwarranted. I’m trying though, really I am.

Louise
18 years ago
Reply to  Lee

Lee, ya say you’re really trying to escape that level 3? Hehe, hoho, hon =))

Lee
18 years ago
Reply to  Louise

Laugh at my post of tomorrow all you want hon. And those things I’m getting – they’ve been on my wishlist for over a year…

So there!

My mockers are vanquished by the power of my rhetoric. It was the ‘so there’ that did it. I even had a ‘whatever’ follow-up prepared…:d

Judith
18 years ago

What a wonderful idea! I don’t think I need anything right now, but I will be curious to hear how it turns out (if I were to pick, it would be Malmaison–but I have decants of that so I don’t really need a bottle). I know what you mean about the BA Musc; I decided I really like it, but I still have moments when I wonder. And I am glad that L.FINALLY saw the light about Querelle!

rosarita
18 years ago

Oh, this is so cool! I have been swapping on MUA for a couple of months now and I’m having so much fun. I have loads of vintage costume jewelry, scarves, stuff in general that I would love to create a package with.

Please put my name in for the Le Prince Jardinier. I am still very much in the *I’ll try anything* stage….and your opinion of Obsession (along with everyone else’s) will not change it’s status as a winter love affair for me. 🙂

18 years ago

OK, I think I NEED to try that Haramens 🙂 When you decide that you are not in fact just having an off day with it, forward it to me, and I’ll send you back something equally awful :d

18 years ago
Reply to  March

I still have those puppies laying around somewhere- I don’t know anyone that I’ve ever been annoyed with enough to send them to.

sariah
18 years ago

Fun. Please put me in the hat for Eau d’Elide – it’s my favorite Diptyque (4.5/5 on the Sariah scale). It will be so fun to see what you get in return. I must be getting around to Stage 4 too, I recently gave away 2 bottles. The packrat in me is learning to let go.

sariah
18 years ago
Reply to  March

Yep, see you Saturday! Funny, it’s not that strong on me, the only reason I didn’t rate it a 5/5 was it was very faint in less than 4 hours.

Anne
18 years ago

Fun, fun fun! March, you love Chaos, the perfume I mean, so you must be an amazing person! The points you score with that one, well you can love Light Blue and diss pretty much everything else. BTW I liked Haramens, hope I never find the boiled in milk dirty womens panties that I think were mentioned.
I would like to try L’Artisan Fleur de Carotte. The bottle is smaller than the one I would be parting with so I can convince myself that this trade is a good thing! :)>-

Elle
18 years ago

Brilliant idea! Don’t actually want any new bottles at the moment, but can’t wait to read your posts about what you get. I also look forward to any crow-eating posts, since I am notorious for changing my mind on scents. I am *not* to be trusted when I diss a scent because in a year or two I may well be declaring it my ultimate HG (I have an awkward number of “ultimate HGs”). My latest turn around is w/ my previously loathed geranium. I’ve not converted into a full fledged geranium sl*t yet, but I did just order MH Geranium Bourbon from BH. Also fell *hard* for Querelle, which I’d previously only been neutral about. However, I do share your opinion of Haramens and I must confess I feel the same about 100% Love. I think Dante could have skipped the excrement in the 2nd trench of the 8th circle and just had scents like these. Oh, and I do not see myself doing an about face on these scents. There are some where the revulsion is just too extreme. OK…maybe I shouldn’t say that about 100% Love. That could be my skin chemistry and I swear I think it changes (how could I *ever* have not seen the astounding magic in Querelle?!). We’ll see.

MattS
18 years ago

I love this idea. It seems like so much fun and surprises are always great. I’m not familiar with any of these scents, so if there’s one that’s unloved or unclaimed, send it on to me. I’m always a sucker for that last picked at dodgeball/sad eyed pound puppy situation. I don’t really have anything to swap, but I love the challenge of putting together a fun kind of grab bag gift box. My mind is already racing…

hausvonstone
18 years ago

March – a very nice idea. I myself feel totally overwhelmed by samples (and decants, and a few bottles – more than I should have!), and yet somehow I have more coming the in the mail today. My problem is, I want to KNOW what these things smell like, and then when I know, I’m often done with them. I’m so glad to say that I don’t have an interest in anything on your list!! I recently waited a very long time for Barbara Bui in a swap and was totally disappointed, so I need to be calm. Though, if you want to get rid of any PG’s, send ’em my way!…Cadjmere is my new favorite thing.

Dana
18 years ago

Wow, what a generous idea! I’d love to try the Gap Spun Orange Blossom. I’m having fun thinking of what I’d send in return.

Louise
18 years ago

Moi-a lot of stage three, with some progress toward 4. Are organizing and retrying samples and trying to find homes for sadly unwanted bottles signs of lessening obsession? However I am still ravenous for new sensations, so the progress may be minimal.

Are these stages more like Maslow’s heirarchy, in which once a lower need (such as physiological demands) is met, there’s no need to revisit this step, before moving to a higher level (say, safety)? And what, actually, is perfume self-actualization? Or this more like the stages of grief (but in a happy way:> ) in which the stages are fluid, with anger popping up in the midst of acceptance. And where does my tedious over-analysis fit in?

All kidding aside, I’d love the Floris if it came to me; chocolate will come to you regardless.

Maria
18 years ago

Well, just yesterday evening I mentioned Fleur de Carotte to my DH. I can’t remember why. I think he thought there were no salad-vegetable-based fragrances. If not, then Eau d’Elide. Or neither. I’m going to send you something anyway, as soon as I dig out from the school year. That means it will happen after Christmas.

I don’t think you were having an off day with Haramens. :-&

Rita
18 years ago

What a great idea! I wouldn’t mind trying the Fleur de Carotte! I have many things I could(should?) part with, and I am also one of those crazy people with many unsniffed samples sitting around!

Rita
18 years ago
Reply to  Rita

Almost forgot-I just dissed Iris Silver Mist so I owe YOU an apology! If we all liked the same perfume the world would be a very dull place! :d

Joan
18 years ago
Reply to  March

March,

Thanks for the potency warning on ISM – am expecting my decant today and will get the plastic bag ready. Maurice Roucel is a genius. The cats come running when I open my sample closet – must be all the civet!!:-?

Catherine
18 years ago

I cannot imagine just leaving samples to sit. I tell myself that I will put on one a day–and yet six end up on my arms within a half-hour. I am by no means near to stage 4.

I’m starting to obsess with wearing and trying rose perfumes. OJ Ti’af turned my head around, then George Sand. I never liked rose before. Please place me in the drawing for the S-Perfume “Love,” for I’ve been eyeing that fragrance for some weeks now.

Now, what I could send in return . . . It’s like potential Christmas shopping!:x

Louise
18 years ago
Reply to  Catherine

Catherine-what is it with my/our new rose obsession (stage 3)-I was always a rose hater, but an arabian oud/rose thing got to me this summer. Now, I am clearly a mad for rich rose.\:d/

Catherine
18 years ago
Reply to  Louise

So happy I am not the only one! This gluttonous turn to rose has startled me. Nearly bought Sa Majesté la Rose unsniffed this weekend, just yearning for a ROSE. My dilemma would be so much easier if I could handle the base of FM, as those two roses are beautiful.

Dipping into my sample of Oud Damascus . . . (raises cup).