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Michelle February 21, 2014

Beautiful post, Musette. You have such an amazing gift of writing true, and I feel so blessed to partake in the laughter and tears.

Liz K February 21, 2014

My sincere condolences. I had to wait until I wasn't at work to finish reading your post as I am insanely sensitive on the subject of pets and was making patients and co-workers tear up in sympathy. Thank you for being a loving and responsible pet parent.

Queen Cupcake February 20, 2014

Hot tears as I read this. Big lump in my throat. So glad your vet's office are kind and patient people. Of course they are; they love animals. Big hugs and kisses for you and the little dog.

Portia February 20, 2014

WWWWWAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! How are you so strong. HUG HUG HUG HUG HUG Portia xx

edpgypsy February 20, 2014

Awe, so sorry, Musette. Dealing with something like this is always in the back of your mind as a pet owner and it saddens me to hear the news. I am happy to that you are doing well though. *~Hugs to you!~*

Jennifer Counts February 19, 2014

Hugs to you, Musette. I'm so sorry for your loss. We will all miss seeing his adorably grumpy face in your posts. :) I'm sorry you didn't get more time with him, but I'm glad you were able to ease him out of this world with such love and compassion.

Brooke February 19, 2014

Musette, you are such a beautiful person, in so many ways. Even during tough times, you see the positive and work through it. I am so sorry about Carmine but both of you were so lucky to have each other. If there is such a thing as reincarnation, I want to come back as one of your pets!

Mary K February 19, 2014

I was sorry to learn of Carmine's passing, but you did the right thing and gave him comfort right through to the end of things. He was lucky to have a loving mom like you who cared about him and always did the right thing for him. No matter how many pets we have as we go through life, we always remember each and every one and when they are gone we recall our good times that we had with them and all the funny things that they did. Carmine is in doggie heaven now and will forever know how much you loved him.

kizzers February 19, 2014

So,so sorry to hear this, Musette. So glad you got that snuggle, they always find a way to say thank-you xxx

poodletwins February 19, 2014

Im so sorry to hear of Carmine's passing...He was surrounded by pure love and gentleness and he knew it, im sure. My two maltipoos, Marshall and Macloud, are sending you a hug right now!

wefadetogray February 19, 2014

I feel for you so much. I have been in your position and I was not as wise as you are. It took me years to recover. It is so sweet how you wore no5 to help ease the transition. Stay strong! all the best to you!!!

Sherri February 19, 2014

I am so, so sorry to hear about Carmine! He was so blessed to be loved by you. I will never forget the look in my 16 year old Siamese cat's eyes when I had to have her put down. All that love and that trust...I will never forget that as long as I live, but there come a point when it is a blessing for them to be out of their suffering...Carmine was lucky you were there for him right up to the very end. Lots of hugs your way...

mim February 19, 2014

Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us all. Still sniffling a bit. I am sorry for your loss and glad you had the chance to say goodbye and hold him one last time (my black lab Lady passed away of cancer when I was 12, and to this day I still get sad because I didn't feel like I said goodbye). Glad you are able to feel that you did right by him for the whole time you were together, and that your new normal is going okay. Best wishes to all of you.

Nemo February 19, 2014

Thank you for sharing your stories about Carmine. It sounds like he had a relatively peaceful and painless end, and he had you there to cuddle with so how much more can we really ask for? And don't forget all the hotdogs...I am so sorry for your loss, but glad that you were able to have so many joyful times with your four-legged friend.

Tiara February 19, 2014

So sorry to hear he's gone, but so glad you were able to send him on his way so peacefully. Now I must go get a tissue.

Janice February 19, 2014

I’m sitting here at work crying like a baby, but also so glad that you were able to share this with us. What a loving thing you both did for him… That is a wonderful way to look at it, a covenant kept and a joyous honor. Take care.

Edward G February 19, 2014

With tears in my eyes, and a lump in my throat, I offer my sincere condolences. You were both lucky to have had each other. If I wasn't writing this at work, I would pick up my cat, Tommy, and give him a big hug (as I always do). Thank you for sharing your story.

Lynne Marie February 19, 2014

Oh, Musette, my heart breaks for you! I know it was hard to write, but we are so blessed that you were willing to share this with us, you have immeasurably helped those of us who will have to confront this kind of pain with our own four-legged family members. Thank you. I hope you are consoled by the fact that as much as you loved Carmine, he was able to show you at the end that he knew he was loved and he loved you just as well. What more can any of us ask for? Sending you hugs and waves of comfort!

eldarwen22 February 19, 2014

I'm sorry for your loss of Carmine, it always sucks to lose a pet.

tammy February 19, 2014

I didn't know what to say when I read this last night and I still don't, other than I am in awe that you can write so beautifully when your heart has a rottie-sized hole in it. So like you to comfort US with your post. Thank you for letting us know and sharing your beautiful heart with us. Hugs.

rivercitylizzy February 19, 2014

Musette, I'm so sorry for your loss and at the same time inspired by the loving, kind, and very mindful way you escorted your beautiful four-legged friend out of this life.

Dina C. February 19, 2014

Thank you so much for sharing the end of your journey with Carmine with us, Anita. You have undoubtedly reminded many people how to be responsible, mature, loving and compassionate not only in their dealings with terminal pets, but with terminal people too. God bless you for that. And may He comfort you and heal you each and every day. I feel for you deeply. I helped my one and only pet, a white cat named Punkie, make that final journey in a similar fashion about 20 years ago. And my dad died of cancer 22 years ago, and that involved saying good-bye and letting him go as well. It's the tremendous and awe-full price we pay for loving another one of God's creatures, be they human or animal, so very much. I have immense respect for your willingness to go through this and write about it. Sending you long-distance hugs...(((musette)))

jirish February 19, 2014

I am so sorry that you had to let your baby go so soon, but I'm happy that his end was as peaceful and loving as it was. You are right that we are lucky that we can control the end our animal babies face - I wish we could offer the same kindness to people. My mother died last year of cancer, which had gone to her spinal fluid, causing encephalitis, causing great pain, blindness, and hallucinations. There were many times I thought that had she been a dog or a cat she would have been treated more humanely, even though I know the hospice people were doing the best they could.

Carol S February 19, 2014

beautifully written , proudly done , sadly read . (((HUGS)))

Ncmyers February 19, 2014

He was a good boy. Take care of yourself.

Gentiana February 19, 2014

I am so very sorry for this... I know what it means and how it hurts.... I wish you find peace and comfort... It is hard to forget, as I never will forget Pip and Foxy.

missyl February 19, 2014

I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend! Your post was a beautiful tribute to love .. And a reminder (to me )to cherish the days we have with loved ones.. Blessings to you.

Jackie b February 19, 2014

Thank you for telling us about the final chapter, it sounds like an experience you will look back on with peace in your heart. Love from Oz

sweetharmony8 February 19, 2014

I am so happy you both got those last few weeks together. I am sure Carmine thought he had already went to doggie heaven! I have only ever lost one dog, but in rescuing I have let many go to their new homes, and it's always hard. But I have found that it is always for a reason. Somewhere, I am sure, there is another fur-baby that needs your love and compassion, and when the time is right, you'll find them.

Suzanne February 19, 2014

Wishing you comfort, Musette. You let go of Carmine in a very beautiful way, so take comfort in that you did the right thing for him.

Ann February 19, 2014

I am so sorry for the loss of your wonderful friend. After we had to let my beloved Maltese go (lymphoma at 14), I took comfort in believing/knowing that anything we love truly never leaves us, but takes up new residence in our hearts where they're with us always. God bless.

fanny February 19, 2014

Bless you, for sharing and for doing what you did. Bless you.

Tena February 19, 2014

I am so very sorry your sweet boy had to leave you. There comes a time where releasing our best friends are something we do for them, not to them. Sending Hugs and lots of caring thoughts.

poodle February 19, 2014

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I had hoped you'd get a bit more time with him. I'm glad you were able to make his end of life a stress free and painless experience. It's hard to let them go even when you know you're doing the right thing. It will be tough to adjust to him not being there for a while. I'm glad you have the other pup to distract you a bit. That's much better than a completely empty house. I'm sending you a big virtual hug and some Kleenex along with kisses from the poodles and the whippet. Much love to you. Xoxox

zazie February 19, 2014

I send you a big hug, and a tender scratch behind the ear of your little dog... I'm sure carmine felt your love and has his tail waving at you, wherever he is. Lots of love, Z.

masha7 February 19, 2014

I've been where you were and still remember the day I was with my dog when she passed (20 years ago!). After the sedation and before the last injection, she ate a chocolate bar, her favorite treat, but one she was forbidden to have because chocolate makes dogs ill. She was so happy to eat that chocolate and I think it was her final memory, chocolate with no tummy ache....You did a good thing, and love never dies. I'm hugging you big-time in my heart right now.

thinkingmagpie February 19, 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss... but you know, you gave him a great comfort, and what's more, so much love. Over the years I had to say goodbye to many furry bundles of love... It's always been hard but after all these years I can still feel their love and joy they'd given me as a part of myself. Take care.

jilliecat February 19, 2014

What can I say? Except that you were so lucky to have him, and he you. All my love.

Glannys February 19, 2014

I am really sorry for your loss. You loved him and did everything possible for him; and, obviously, he knew and appreciated it.

Tom February 19, 2014

I just wish I was there to give you a big hug and some chicken and waffles. I got a call from my BFF of 35 years that one of hers has been diagnosed She's devastated but plans on keeping her as comfortable as possible until the time comes to end it. That's what pet parents have to face, I guess. I admire your strength in keeping this about Carmine. I know my friend will do the same.

SallyM February 19, 2014

Dear Musette, my heart goes out to you, having just sent my dear little Willow cat across the Rainbow Bridge a couple of months ago. Like you, I had a couple of weeks after she was diagnosed with cancer and made the same decision - when she stopped eating and drinking, I knew it was Time. (she was quite the roly-poly and LOVED to eat!). The vet came to the house and I sat on the bed where she slept and held her while they administered the shots. You are right - sedation is a must as it calms them when they know things aren't quite right. Our vet was fantastic too - let me hold her for as long as I needed to afterwards and made not one judgment about the amount of tears I shed during the process. I miss her little face daily. But as you so astutely pointed out, it was for her that we chose to do this - we were offered surgery, chemo, blah blah - I just couldn't put her through that. I didn't want to go through the death process but knew I had to - as her friend I owed it to her to be there. I admire your courage in choosing this for your beloved Carmine and even more so, for sharing it with us here.

Furriner February 19, 2014

I am so sorry for you. I know what Carmine meant to you. I am glad you are doing well. You have been through so much lately.

AestheticAlterations (@AestheticAlt) February 19, 2014

I cry. Thank you so much, Musette, for writing about Carmine. I really hope I find people and a place as wonderful as this to bring my Miss Nikki to when the time comes, though otherwise I simply can't think about it. Blessings to you. I think of you often. xoCatherine

rosarita February 19, 2014

Oh my dear, my heart goes out to you. Thanks for your courage in doing the best for your beloved Carmine and sharing it with us so we can cry with you. Big hugs.

foxbins February 19, 2014

I am so sorry that you didn't have a little more time with Carmine feeling okay; I'm sure you hoped he would hang around a bit longer. My deepest condolences and I am so, so, sorry. It's always so hard to say goodbye to a much-loved member of the family.

Mariekel February 19, 2014

Oh god, Anita, my heart really hurts to read this. There is no pain more poignant than losing a dog. Really big hug.

Laurels February 19, 2014

It's always so hard to let them go, but you seem to have given him the most peaceful goodbye possible. Our old Rott mix is suffering from worsening joint problems, but still enjoying his mealtimes and "walks," which now are just two houses down to the corner and back. I hope that when his time comes, he goes as peacefully as your Carmine. Take care, and enjoy your little guy.

einsof February 19, 2014

there's nothing anyone can say at a moment like this... i am so happy you had the experience you did... you are right, we are often times blessed with more Care Taking (being in control of the final moments) with our four legged loved ones than we are our two legged ones. i wish you and yours ease in the transition and joy in the memories. and i will certainly be snuggling just a little closer to my own Matilda tonight as i let her soft purring lull me into sleep, and inhale the sweet scent of her that if bottled, would be the only thing i surround myself with. thank you for your truth, your candor and the obvious love with which you light the world.

Lisa D February 19, 2014

My dear, I hope that Carmine comes to visit you in your dreams, as my Maggi does with me!

Sonia February 19, 2014

Musette, what a touching, beautiful ending and completion of his life with you. Thank you for sharing this.

Kandice February 19, 2014

Musette....I read this through my tears. I'm so sorry for your loss. All of us who have lost fur babies know how difficult it is to go through this with them. But there is something special and sacred in being there with them at the end. They know you love them and are doing what's best for them, and they know they will live in our hearts forever. Be kind to yourself and your baby that's left. Sending hugs and comfort to you.

singlemaltcat February 19, 2014

I'm crying as I write this. We are so lucky to have these wonderful creatures in our lives. I hope that your love for Carmine will see you through the sadness and that someday you will allow another to enter your life. Love is never lost and only increases in the sharing. Please take care.

Pklagrange February 19, 2014

I am so sorry. I will be thinking of you. It is very difficult to take this action, although it is compassionate. Take care of yourself and your loved ones.

molly l February 19, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss! Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Your strength and love that you showed for your sweet dog is very moving and inspiring. It sounds like not only did you take very good care of him in life but gave him a very loving and reassuring sendoff. It sounds like he was comfortable, and at peace and secure in your love for him. That is something beautiful in an otherwise very sad and difficult process. Thanks again for sharing.

Martha February 19, 2014

Bless your heart, Musette. And thank goodness for euthanasia so that our beloved animal companions can go out easy. It is a true kindness though it isn't easy to get there. I spent a year waffling about my old dog until one day the signs were very clear that it was time for her to go. Take care.

Ann February 19, 2014

Oh, sweetie! I am so very, very sorry to hear this. But I am so glad that you were able to be with him like that at the end, and let his last hours be spent in a quiet, peaceful, loving way befitting such a loyal friend of so many years. That is such a blessing. Thank you for sharing this with us although I know it was hard. I'm not good at typing through my tears, so please just know that I am thinking of you and and sending many hugs and prayers your way.

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