Swapmania and Silver Foxes

By March

Nope, no perfume review today.  But I’m not completely worthless.  A number of you have asked about another round of Swapmania – our free-for-all perfume swapfest that we did a year ago at Thanksgiving, a total experiment on my part, and it was so successful we did it again last summer.  We got more than 1,200 comments the first time, and more than 900 the second time.  That’s a LOT of swaps.

Y’all have evolved some pretty complicated swaps – international, splits, and cool swaps for non-perfume items.  (I think at this point there’s an underground swapfest going on internationally for chocolates and other stuff we can’t get in the U.S.)  You have also swapped for hand-knit scarves, tea, cosmetics, etc.

Or you can just stick to plain old perfume, nothing wrong with that.

Anyhow, I thought we’d do another either later this month or in February, how do you feel about that?  I want to avoid a holiday weekend like Thanksgiving, a bunch of people were disappointed that time because they were out of town and couldn’t play.   Is there some date I shouldn’t do?  Does anyone have a strong preference?

Also, you can drop in comments here any past issues or questions you’d like addressed.  As far as I know, things have gone pretty fabulously, if you can deal with the insanity of the pace of postings.

The only thing off the top of my head I’ll put in here: I know some swappers are/were upset by U.S. residents who wouldn’t swap internationally.  From my own perspective:  I dread shipping internationally because of US customs issues and requirements.  Maybe because I live near D.C., the level of scrutiny and hassle is pretty intense.  So please don’t take it personally – it is not a trust issue.  If you live in a town or country where you just drop your package off with your local delivery wombat, no questions asked, it’s hard to imagine what a pain customs shipping can be.  I do want to note here that I have bought, sold, and swapped with people from all over the world, and never been ripped off or had a package lost.

Finally, your responses to last week’s going-gray post were amazing!  I really enjoyed reading them, although at some point I gave up trying to respond to all of them.  There were some great gray-hair tips and cross-conversations going on in comments.  I am stunned by how many of you are rocking the silver fox yourselves.  By the way, I just had the last stray bits of hair color trimmed from my hair today.  My stylist is working on maximizing the curls, and gave me another “blue shampoo” to try.  Sitting directly across from me was a woman, 60-ish, with long, white and silver hair, ponytail length. She was stunning.

image: Bill the Cat and friends… don’t you love that image?  Bill the Cat is the unofficial mascot of Swapmania until I get an email from Berkeley Breathed’s lawyers telling me to knock it off.


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  • Bluest says:

    I’m in!

  • Ula says:

    hooray! loved the last swap. I vote for mid February, maybe a weekend?

  • Holly F. says:

    Yay! LOVE Swapmania. I’ve met some really amazing people through this fun event, and would love to do it again. My vote is for the last weekend of January or the first weekend of February. It seems like more can participate during the weekend, so maybe kick it off on a Saturday? Thanks to March for facilitating all the fun!

  • sweetlife says:

    Yes, please! Swaparama! I have a small (no really) box of things I’ve labeled “for Posse Swap” in my head. Some of ’em are pretty good, too. And I vote for mid Feb.

  • Erin T says:

    I mean no offense to anyone, but I do sympathize with those who are upset about the non-USA comments. Living in Canada, I find that swappers are frequently fine with shipping to me – “No international shipping” often is not meant to include Canada. And customs and cross-border mailing can be a pain in the rear for both parties in a swap, I agree. But I go through the EXACT same scrunity, customs forms, wait times at the post office, etc. as Americans AND I pay waaaay more for the privilege of shipping – I have never received a swap package where I haven’t paid considerably more to ship my bottle or decants to my American friend.

    **And yet I do it all the time.** Most of the people I swap or split with are North American but I have received delightful packages from swappers or splitters in the UK, Germany, Singapore, Brazil and Australia. I appreciate these international packages, and have realized from corresponding with the senders that many international perfumistas go through MUCH more than North Americans in dealing with their mailing and customs systems.

    • Erin T says:

      Sensitive, Canadian-inferiority-complex rant aside – I wanted to point out that I love SwapMania (I wrote “SwampMania” at first. I’d love one of those, too, I guess.) In the first swap (I think?!) I connected with another, of course, Canadian (by coincidence, I swear!) and it worked out wonderfully, and she’s awesome, and we got a chance to meet one another when she was visiting my area.

  • Marilie says:

    Oh I would love to take part in a swap! Some weekend in late February would be best for me (after my exams) but I can deal with an earlier date as well.

    My experience with international mailing is that it usually works well the way Millicent explained. “Personal cosmetics” or “cosmetic samples” are ok but parcels declared as holding alcohol-containing liquids are inspected.

  • Ann says:

    What fun the first two were, and I’m all for another one, even though I have very little to swap this time around. Thanks!!

  • hvs says:

    I vote for over a weekend too. I enjoyed my EU-swapping during the last one, and am happy to continue with it…open to US as well. Silver Fox, Pewter Passion! You look great, March!

  • Jennifer says:

    I vote for the 10th of Febuary. That way there’s time to get the decanting supplies and figure out what to cull from the wardrobe.I don’t know about the rest of you ..but I personally have had WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY too much fun on ebay/thrift stores/discounters this *ahem*cough*past-few-years *ahem*
    Ow I can feel the hand cramps now and I haven’t even started.I’m in trouble ! They must breed when I’m off at work.That’s the only explination possible -Right?

  • Alice C says:

    I’m up for it anytime!

  • (Ms.) Christian says:

    No thank you.

  • Millicent says:

    Yay for Swapmania! Anytime is fine with me, but prefer late Jan/early Feb.

    Speaking from an international address here, we get things mailed from the US pretty regularly (my mother is a champ) from USPS, UPS and FedEx. I can’t, of course, speak for local variations in post offices, but if the contents and value are declared as something innocuous and low — such as “personal cosmetics” — things seem to go smoothly. I am also willing to bear the cost of FedEx or UPS, within reason, but can take that up at swap time.

  • Flora says:

    Another vote here for starting it on a Friday so those of us who have to work during the week will have time to participate. I just hate the thought of all that swapping going on while I am doing something else, like my actual job! ;-)

    Moat of the activity seems to happen in the first couple of days anyway, if my memory serves. It has been SO much fun both times, and I look forward to another round, even if I don’t have a whole lot to swap this time, you just never know what kind of a match will come up!

  • Asali says:

    Oh, I loved swapmania the last time around, and plead for (any)Friday start too. Thank you in advance for hosting :-)

  • Kirsten D says:

    Looking forward to the next Swapmania, and hoping there’ll be a few folks from the UK playing along too. International shipping restrictions just spoil the fun!

  • Kat says:

    Would love to be a part of it!!!!

  • Musette says:

    Musette’s Two Cents:

    How would either Tuesday 7 Feb or Wed 8 Feb work for you guys!? I think it would be a great time – everybody’s settled down from the hollerdays and the next ones are at least a week away, which would give everybody plenty of time to get the swaps underway, etc…if you are thinking of swappage in time for V-Day, how about 31January?

    just Musette’s 😕

    xo >-)

  • LindaB says:

    YAY Swapmania!!! I had such a blast during the last one and made several successful perfume swaps…all parties were very happy! It’s nice to have a heads up so I can start sifting through and making lists. Last time I was here at work and didn’t want to guess on sizes, etc. so I only posted bottles/decants that I was absolutely sure about. Could’ve had many more swaps I’m sure.

    Anyhoo, yes, yes, YES!!! Let’s do this. It’ll help cure my winter doldrums. (Definitely don’t do President’s Day wekeend please!)

    • Lisa says:

      Hi LindaB! I just discovered Perfume Posse searching for “Fresh Pomegranate Parfum” and it sent me to your post from 2011. Swapmania sounds amazing and I could do any of these dates mentioned!

      While I know the date for this one isn’t set yet, if you may still have this bottle available, I’d LOVE to see if you would be interested in swapping sooner. I could do perfume, samples, other product you may like. I am in the US and could ship internationally if needed.

      Thank you in advance!!!

  • ggperfume says:

    Swapmania – can I plead for the last week of Feb or first week of March (after Presidents’ Day Weekend, in other words)? I have so much going on my calendar before then, I’m afraid I wouldn’t be able to get organized any sooner!

  • Elizabeth W says:

    Yippee, swapmania! I would love it if we can do it in mid- to late February…


  • dinazad says:

    I’m all for it!

  • Loverdoll78264 says:

    Sounds interesting and some non perfume items might make good swapping fodder, cause I don’t have enough perfumes just yet. Watched the last two. Might participate on this one. Also, you have me debating the “silver fox” look. . . . . G

  • Lisa D says:

    Oooh, Swapmania! Let’s do it!

  • FragrantWitch says:

    Hurrah for Swapmania 3!!!
    I can’t wait, anytime in Jan/Feb is good. I’ll start making my list and ordering decanting supplies- I always seem to run out!

  • rosarita says:

    I didn’t get a chance to comment on the Silver Fox post last week, so I’ll take this opportunity to say that you are rocking the look, March. :) My best friend has super short hair that she finally allowed to go natural and she looks so good that she gets compliments all the time, from friends & strangers alike. I don’t have gray, it’s a genetic thing (my mother @ 84 is still mostly dark) but thinning is different story & just one more fun surprise about aging. Yech. I’m getting more hair on my chin than my head – what, TMI? Remember that scene in Terms of Endearment where Shirley Maclaine & Jack Nickleson go out to lunch in a convertible and her hairpiece comes off? She has this look of perfect comedic dignity when she realizes it. That’s what I’m aiming for.

  • Francesca says:

    Swapmania is way too complicated for me, though it certainly does sound like fun.

    On the subject of going silver, check out photos of a hair model named Yasmina Rossi. Lucy Raubertas has had a thread going on her fb page about rocking the silver and YR’s name and photo came up.

    I doubt I’ll ever go completely gray (it’s genetic) but I mentioned on Lucy’s page a tip from a dog-show, dog-grooming friend–add a few drops—a FEW DROPS, or you will wind up looking like a Druid Warrior–of laundry blueing to your shampoo and conditioner. I’ve done it when I want to make my grays shimmer. She feels it’s more effective than any of the blue shampoos (at least the ones made for dogs with white fur). Science experiment!

    • rosarita says:

      I forgot about laundry blueing! Great stuff. I had a gorgeous white cat many yrs ago that would get a rinse once in a while.

    • Barbara says:

      Love how when you google Yasmina Rossi my favorite silver fox, Emmylou Harris’ pic shows up!

  • Masha says:

    Woot! Woot! Another swap,and I’ve got some great bottles to swap, too! I finally decided I really don’t care for Nuit de Tubereuses (took about 2 years), so that one’s going! And some other treats. And yes, I live in a very high-security town, I can’t ship perfume overseas, everything gets inspected.

  • Madea says:

    How does everybody feel about dupes?

    I’m planning on ordering a large-ish order from Hayward Enterprises soon. If I get the ten-pack, the law of averages suggest I’ll want to swap at least one or two.

    Would it be okay to list any I don’t like, assuming I mark them clearly as being dupes?

    Also, I have some (non-dupe) bottles I literally can’t give away. Does anyone have any suggestions about how to get rid of them? They aren’t *bad*, per se, just not stuff anyone seems to want.

    • Suzy Q says:

      Try calling your local women’s shelter to see if they’d like them. Someone here made that suggestion in the past and I thought it was a terrific idea.

    • tammy says:

      Well, if no one bites this time you could always just throw them in your swap packages as an extra…

    • Aparatchick says:

      Try your local zoo. The one I work at uses perfume as enrichment for some of the animals.

  • Suzy Q says:

    Hooray for Swapmania! January or February–either one. Can you start it on a Friday, so that we’ll have the weekend to pore over it? I’m making my list!

  • Alnysie says:

    Yes pleaaase! I was just getting into fragrances when the last swap was held, so I didn’t really understand what was happening at the time! But now I have a few bottles I’d like to swap! I guess I’d just be grateful knowing a few days in advance at what date and time it’ll start, so that I can be there when it happens!