Darlings – this will be quick. I’m trying to get out of Hooterville – we’re expecting a possible blizzard and if I miss my flight to SF you will hear the shriekage on the moon.
I am still co-hosting (with Brooke) the Party for Tama but now it will be a Gathering of Friends. As many of you know by now, Tama passed away Thursday, at home, in relative comfort and surrounded by immeasurable love. Brooke, Nina and Liz were the vanguard of this effort to allow her to die in place, if possible, which was Tama’s wish. But that would not have happened without the stunning generosity of the Perfume community. You made this happen. You. People who maybe read her blog posts, may have followed her SF Sniff Events on Facebook. Or not. A friend of mine knew next to nothing about her – but was moved by what we were trying to do here – and he gave, both to the fundraiser and by purchasing a bottle of San Francisco Rose, which Tanja Bochnig, working in collaboration with Michelyn Camen, created to help raise money for Tama’s cause. The outpouring of support, both large and small, was stunning. There’s an old saying “nobody gets out of Life alive” and as far as I can tell, truer words were never spoken. So I think the next best thing is to exit this world in as much comfort and dignity and love as we can. Not everyone gets that option, so to be given the opportunity to provide that for someone makes it even more wonderful.
But now….now we are left. We are left with grief…and possibly a bit of fear …because….well, Life is scary enough. So when it ends for someone we come together, to try to process the experience and take comfort in fellowship. And that’s what we’re going to do next Saturday in San Francisco. We are coming together to honor our friend…and also to rejoice in our own continuing lives. We are a community that has walked out talk. We kept our covenant with ourselves, by making this possible (and btw, I don’t care if you donated $10 or or $100 or $1000 – you walked your talk! And we thank you!). The Gathering of Friends is open to anyone who would like to stop by, grab a bite, hug some folks, laugh, cry…just ‘be’. It’s still at 12:30p at Tacolicious on Valencia. From there we will be walking over to Tigerlily for cocktails and more hugging and maybe smelling some perfume. Tama organized so many wonderful Sniff Events in SF – it seems only fitting that we continue the tradition.
Hope to see you there!!! And I love you all!