Seth Godin has a new book out – The Icarus Deception. While reading it, my thoughts turned to my best perfume list. Wait, are you guys saying you don’t do that… ever?
Godin talks about Safety Zone and Comfort Zone and how when we are young – and I am embellishing this not just a little with my thinking – we are idiots with our Safety Zone in terms of knowing where it is, but part of youth is finding it. Usually that entails some scary near-misses. The safety zone is the place where your physical and emotional person is mostly safe. Over time, that Safety Zone often gets, well, comfortable, and then it becomes our Comfort Zone. The big problem with that is often our Safety Zone has moved in the intervening years, and we are now completely unsafe in our comfort zone..
Example – Fragrant Fanny heads off to the perfume counter at age 26, she has her first big job and feels like she can splurge on a bottle of perfume. She shops and shops and falls in love with Donna Karan Chaos, buys a bottle, declares it the Best.Perfume.Evah and it will be her signature scent from this day forward. She buys it year after year, people get it for her as gifts, she is awash in Chaos until suddenly the Chaos gifts slow down and stop and she troops off to the department store to get her own damn bottle and – not there, discontinued. She now hunts it down at discounters, not there either. Finds it on eBay for — $300 a bottle?!?!?
Fanny’s Comfort zone of one fragrance made her fall out of the Safety zone for perfume into the unsafe zone. Her perfume became discontinued, she wasn’t paying attention, didn’t stock up, and now she’s paying Amouage prices for a $60 bottle of perfume.
Fanny also has worn the same flip-up bob for the last 15 years.
Are you your perfume comfort zone? Is it the best place? As I’ve done the comprehensive notes post (yes, a new one will be up next week), it has forced me to go beyond my comfort barriers. What I’ve found is that my comfort zone isn’t where I thought it was. Many of the perfumes I’ve avoided because of their notes or classification are really beautiful and perfect for me. Never having been big on having The Scent, I’ve never been in danger of having just one perfume that was my best perfume.
But it makes me think about how many things I have missed out on – and I consider myself incredibly adventurous with perfume – simply because of the notes or the maker. Did I reject something simply because it fell outside of my comfort zone? What would be a perfume safety zone? Not sampling things you know you can’t afford or would never spend that much for?
What is your comfort zone in perfume, or do you think you have one at all? Do you have a safety zone? Do you not question either? See, this is what happens when I get a couple of weeks off and I wind up spending ten days of it with a flu that had me thinking expiration was a perfectly reasonable option. I missed you guys!
What did you get for Christmas? Any great/good perfume gifts someone gave you or you gave yourself? Spill, spill, I want/need all the deets!
Oh, the book! Love the book, you can go to Amazon to get it in hard copy or kindle. It just verifies a lot of what I already knew and how I live. Screw that flying too close to the sun nonsense. You melt the wings and fall to earth? Build another set, but better.