Parties, Perfume, Musings and Old Men

Last time I threatened to write about the Baby Shower Garden Party – and it has come and gone, so here’s the review of that:  it was GREAT!  I loved planning it – and making myself crazy worrying about it – and then the magical transition that should always happen, when you stop worrying about What People Will Think about your fabulousness and start looking forward to folks just having a good time.  The garden is not at its best this time of year and the Summer Bomb Cyclone that ripped through Iowa and Illinois did a number on the remaining flowers… but y’know what?  None of that mattered.  It looked lovely, the guest of honor seemed absolutely charmed by the entire thing, all family and friends had a lovely time – and that was the whole point!  These people have gone out of their way to make me feel welcomed and loved here in Hooterville – it was such an honor to return the favor!  Social Distancing wasn’t difficult – 10 people were in my garden, which is pretty big and, as her Mum said, “I didn’t know you had so much patio furniture (I do!)” – and most of the people invited have spent most of the lockdown in relative proximity.  Those few who have not been in constant contact kept themselves well away from Mrs Baby, which was my biggest concern.

I used all the china, silver, linens – all the ladies were delighted – and so was I.  I’mo use all that stuff all the time, now.  Why not, right?  It’s pretty – and I like it!  Food:  people ATE!!!  yay!  they ate a LOT!  (double YAY!)… lookit these cutie cupcakes!

I was a bit unnerved that there were so many left over, thinking perhaps that they were inedible… then I remembered:  that carrot recipe produced 36 cupcakes, the chocolate recipe produced 48!! – and I had 12 little lemon bites!  Ten women can only eat so many cupcakes.  The rest went home with the grandmas, to feed the guys!  Ain’t nobody got time for a bazillion cupcakes, not in this house (Jane got ONE carrot cupcake – she was thrilled!).  They stayed from 4p to NINE!   which was high praise, indeed (people party to a schedule around here – it’s eerie.  4p-6p?  At 6p they are OUT!).    The best part?  Sunday morning,  it was like it never happened!  Linens in the wash, dishes done, decorations down and everything put back… Oh, Happy Day!

So! Today The Girl and I walked down to the post office – on the way down we stopped and said hello to our neighbor, Mr S.  He and his boys are the ones who butcher their deer in the yard with the hook and the 55 gal drum of boiling water over an open flame, right there 30′ from the sidewalk, bless their horts… they are crusty, dusty, gnarly MEN.  Men’s men. Hillbilly Men (his own Loud and Proud definition).  He’s been married to Mrs S for 230 years, and he doesn’t have a flirtatious bone in his body – which makes what happened today all the more miraculous (because it Wasn’t About Me – we chat 2-3 times a week, with no incident).  We were yapping under the maple tree in his front yard – he on one end and I on the other – and suddenly he came around the table to stand  across from me, standing about 4′ away.  We finished talking and I gathered The Girl up to go and he said “I just wanted to tell you that I really like the perfume you’re wearing!  It smells so….. NICE!  I could smell it on the breeze, then it would go away – and come back again.  That’s why I moved to the end of the table, to smell it better!”

Lawd Jayzus!  Really?  That’s like… I dunno…. the Power of Olfaction!  This crusty old man could no more help trying to smell it better than he could stop breathing.  Nothing to do with me – everything to do with Olfaction.

Oh.  Ya wanna know what the perfume was?  Hold onto yer butts!  Coty Sand ‘n Sable.  A vintage edt I got, sans cap, at a rando garage sale a few years back.  Huh.

I wonder what he would’ve thought of…say.. Amouage Epic?  Aromatics Elixir? Opium?  hmmm… you never know… but somehow… I dunno…

What do you think?  Has this ever happened to you?  The last time it happened to me was Amouage Dia – and that was a woman friend asking (ditto Calyx, which was queried in a diner by a woman.)  El O was peeved that I was ‘always getting attention’ – “people are always wanting to talk to you!”.  Oh, michty me!   I should’ve run, screaming….and spritzing! 😉




  • Jennifer S says:

    Sounds like a huge success pulled off well on behalf of the mother-to-be! Nobody wanted to leave they were all having a great time. Nice!

  • Patty says:

    OMG, your garden and party looks amazing! I bet it was completely charming, and what a great way to wind up summer – even though I maintain we still have 2 more months left. 🙂

    • Musette says:

      Well, honey – it is the Midwest, so who knows! Last Halloween we had a blizzard! I still have the vid of El O, pulling out of the driveway in a blinding snow! Such a beautiful sight! 😉

  • Maya says:

    What a lovely post! It’s happy making. Thank you. I’m sitting here like a silly jackass grinning from ear to ear.

  • rosarita says:

    What a great perfume compliment! I’m so glad everyone enjoyed the shower, especially you. Nine pm is late in Hooterville, that’s high praise indeed 🙂

  • Dina C. says:

    I’m so happy for you that the baby shower was everything you could have wanted it to be. 😀 Loved the photo of your set up. It sounds utterly charming. And the food: Yum!! Glad you’re gonna keep using the pretty things. Also loved the story about Mr. S and the scent of your Sand & Sable luring him closer. Will wonders never cease? I once had a stranger give me a perfume compliment at an ATM; it was Narcisco edt in the black bottle. But that was years and years ago.

    • Musette says:

      I get a lot of compliments/queries but as I said below, it’s usually the less-expensive stuff! Imo, perfumistas wear interesting scents for themselves (and other perfumistas) but the more mainstream stuff is what captures the noses of ‘regular’ folks. Calyx! Omg. I’ve had folks follow me through a store to find out what that is!!!
      Of course, I’m just as nosy – I followed a woman through a wine shop on the trails of Clinique Happy!

  • March says:

    I loved all your planning and being part of that process <3. I also remember how much I liked Sand and Sable, I got some as a budding perfume nut but can’t find it. Well there’s always eBay lol. It’s got that tanning oil-sunscreen thing going on, right?

    • Musette says:

      that was such fun, yarking with you about it! and yes, S&S has a serious tanning oil vibe but there’s also a faint urinous note that lifts it out of the ordinary, as if you slathered yourself in tanning oil but your chair is atop a spot where some old bum maybe took a wee…?

  • Tara C says:

    Love this post, all of it! I’m a nervous entertainer, which is why I rarely invite anyone over, but I think you’ve inspired me. Once I have my house with a garden of course. The cupcakes look great! I do love baking, made an apple pie last night. And that story about the neighbour is charming, although I would not want to witness his deerslaying activities. (shudder)

    • Musette says:

      LOL! Tara, you should see my grandkids! Little blonde cherubs, the girls in their pink camo (sooo cute) thrilled as beans when they catch a fish ! And they are aces when it comes to helping process the deer their father or brother get! It’s bizarre AF. xoxoxo

  • Portia says:

    It’s SO MUCH better that you were wearing Sand and Sable Musette. It’s an excellent fragrance, has good throw and longevity out of the ballpark. I have a bottle here too, MMMMM>
    So glad your shower went well too. You are a master co-ordinator though so I had zero worries about you pulling it off brilliantly.
    Portia xx

    • Musette says:

      And I don’t know what kinda chemicals they used to bind this dawg, Portia, but it’s holding ALL the notes!
      Thanks for the confidence in my planning – I did Event Planning for eons but it’s been eons since I’ve done any, so I felt a bit rusty – this has restored my confidence in my abilities! xoxoxo

  • Brigitte says:

    Sand and Sable was another drugstore classic I bought as soon as it was released decades ago. Haven’t smelled it in eons. Love that something cheap as chips garnered you a huge compliment. Coty Vanilla Fields was a beaut too so if you ever see vintage snap it up!!

    • Musette says:

      those early Coty scents are nose-magnets! I’ve not smelled Vanilla Fields but there are so many of you on here lauding it that I’ll have to investigate!

  • Cinnamon says:

    Glad the shower went well. You’ve made me think 1) I need to start using all the fancier stuff I own (well, why not indeed?) and 2) that I need to make carrot cake cupcakes. Alas, no one has commented on my perfume in a long while. Can’t recall what the last compliment was. I do recall, however, commenting on other people’s fragrance, including someone wearing Rive Gauche who was really surprised I knew what it was.

    • Musette says:

      Cinnamon – YES! Use ALL the fancy stuff! I’m done ‘saving’ it. For what, indeed! I’m mid-60s, so I have more Life behind than ahead of me – and I’m fine with that. But when I fall off the Life Cliff, I would like to think that I enjoyed as much of Life as I could! That includes Using the Good Stuff!


  • Queen-Cupcake says:

    Those cupcakes! I’m happy for the folks that attended your party, and for you of course. What a wonderful thing to do! I love the story about Mr. Neighbor Man, too. Sand ‘n’ Sable…I think you mentioned it a (maybe long) while ago, and I always meant to hunt it down. Gonna do that! I so long to have a garden party, even though my garden is very tired and tattered from not having enough rain this summer. JoAnn, I like Vanilla Fields too!

    • Musette says:

      LOL! QC, NOBODY CARED! My garden was lightly weeded a few days before the party but the Circle Border (which is right in the center of the garden) looked like a post-apocalyptic wasteland. I was a bit nervous…but nobody cared. Of course, had it been a Garden Walk….. 😉


  • matty1649 says:

    I’m so glad your Garden Baby Shower was a huge success.

  • Jo Ann says:

    Hooray for the Fabulous Musette!
    Happy your event was successful.
    If we could attend your cupcake-china-garden-baby party,
    I think the whole P.Posse would stay ‘til 9, then we could break out the good stuff. And, by that I mean vintage Emeraude, or??

    • Jo Ann says:

      Maybe some Vanilla Fields (you can take the girl out of the hood, but sometimes she still needs her dime-store comfort).

    • Musette says:

      ooh, yeah! Emeraude was my mother’s second-favorite Coty (the first was L’Origan) and I have some lovely vintages of that! xoxoxo

  • Kathleen says:

    I love your stories Musette! I’m happy to hear your garden baby shower was wonderful and enjoyed.
    People wanting to talk to you, and complimenting your perfume are such a compliment. Enjoy the attention!
    I’m a big Coty fan (vintage L’Aimant and Emeraude). I’ve never sniffed Sand n Sable. What’s it like?
    Yay for The Girl scoring a carrot cupcake!

    • Musette says:

      I wish you could’ve seen her, Kathleen! For a split second she was almost too stunned to take it (almost!)… someone had grabbed one, then thought better of it but was too polite to put it back – it was intact on the plate and I said ‘oh, why not?’ – she’d been such a great Girl throughout the whole day…. I think she still dreams about that cupcake! 😉


      • Kathleen says:

        I can picture The Girl’s face at her unexpected good fortune! What is life without an occasional surprise treat! It brings joy to indulge and spoil our fur babies occasionally.

    • Musette says:

      Kathleen – S&S is beachy/tanning oil but it also has this faint urinous note (it’s got the same urine-vibe as Malle Fleur de Cassie) – I think it’s that (very faint) note that makes it interesting, takes it out of the realm of Bubblegum Fantasy Land.

      • Kathleen says:

        Now I’m even more intrigued Musette! I need to experience this Coty. I love that received a compliment.