Yes, it’s coming so quickly, Christmas 2023. That couple of days of the year that are the best of times and the worst of times. For some people they have only the one end of the scale, for the rest of us it’s a mixed event, charged with historic drama and hopefulness. If you are feeling lost, alone, overwhelmed or depressed then please jump to the end of this post for some simple and easy coping mechanisms.
Here’s a page with many worldwide HELPLINES. Please call them, they’re waiting for you.
Also, I know that many of our readers are not celebrating this particular holiday. Whatever you do or whoever you worship I hope the season treats you kindly.
Fragrant Christmas 2023 Gift Ideas
Here are a few things you can hopefully order online and have arrive, wrapped and ready in time for Christmas 2023.
Hey Jude by Aftelier Perfumes is the newest release from Mandy Aftel. It’s created around the David Austen rose Jude the Obscure and is a beautiful rendering of rose that will capture your gift recipients heart and soul. It comes in different strengths, sizes and even in solid perfumes.
Thyina by Neela Vermeire Creations (pronounced Theena) is a lightly spiced aromatic amber perfume with lovely resins and lavender. The new bottle shape will sit equally well with the guys and girls, as will the fragrance. It’s parfum concentration so will wear close but remain richly fragrant all day into evening.
Nesti Dante Romantica soap set comes with six beautifully wrapped floral scent infused soaps that can easily be broken up and added to other things, or given on their own. A few years ago a commenter said a lavish soap and a pack of chewing gum is a good gift. I’ve loved and used that idea often since.
Suite 302 Victoria Beckham Beauty. No, I haven’t smelled it yet but that gorgeous metal case looks like it should be full of illegal booze and apparently it’s a very decent tobacco fragrance with a cherry top. OK, take my money. There are three in the new range but this one is calling to me hard.
Caron Aimez Moi Comme Je Suis is a nutty woodsy thing that is unbelievably comfortable to wear and has a really delicious sweet tobacco dry down. I’m unsure why it doesn’t get the raves all over the place. The bottle also feels lavishly simple and hefty in my hands, the metal strip a very nice additive.
Hermès Casaque Love Story muffler made in 100% cashmere in Great Britain. 30 x 140 cm. It is a thing of great beauty and you need to feel it to believe how gorgeous it is, PLUS it comes in the fabulous orange Hermés box. It’s pricey but not as expensive as one of their 90cm silk scarves. Not fragrant but super desirable.
Goyard Paris Artois PM Bag. The tote to end all yearnings. Comes in 11 colours and will make even the hardest of hearts swoon. There’s something so finished about Goyard. Also not fragrant but it might go well with your new Hermès Casque Muffler. It will definitely bring a new dimension to your shopping sprees.
If You’re Struggling
For those who feel completely alone, cut off and adrift from the rest of humanity. I’m hugging you right now. Please take time now to organise SOMETHING for this holiday. It’s relentless and can push us over the edge.
Have something nice or special to eat, doesn’t need to be expensive, something you like.
Maybe, if you have the funds or want to be involved, go have a meal out. Yes, you’ll be solo but you’ll be enveloped.
If solitude is your favourite thing then maybe a ramble around your neighbourhood? I find walking a really good way to beat off the blues, doesn’t have to be far to change my perspective and mood. The weather, the nature, the blood pounding and rhythm of my steps all combine to elevate my mood. Nearby we have a few parks, there’s nearly always some kind of life going on. People watching is nice too if you’re comfortable and sip a cuppa. Take some photos, just with your phone, enjoy the fun of seeing things in a new way and then spend some time cropping and lighting them. Give yourself a little challenge, photograph four yellow cars, six dogs, one person with food or two people on bikes. Be connected even in solitude.
Have a plan. The best way to cope with anything is to have a plan. Make sure there are a couple of plans in case one gets derailed. Best to keep plans small and achievable, seriously, have a few.
The crushing overload of forced intimacy and aspirational Christmas spirit is a lot to handle, even for the strongest of us.
Also, say NO. If seeing your family, friends, anything is not what you want to do. Say NO. You don’t need to explain, just say no. Write an email if they are bullying you. “I will not be coming for Christmas. Hope it’s everything you want it to be. See you in the new year.”
Again: Here’s a page with many worldwide HELPLINES.
Please call them, they’re waiting for you.
Thinking of you all with love, and hope your Christmas 2023 is a safe and pleasant one